My Disappointing Experience with Tinder
Since its launch in 2012, Tinder has revolutionized the world of online dating. With its simple and addictive swipe-based interface, it has become one of the most popular dating apps in the world. But despite its popularity, Tinder has its fair share of critics. After a year of use and failure after failure, I've decided to stop using it, and today I'm going to tell you why.
Limited profile information
Tinder's minimalist profile design may be aesthetically pleasing, but it can also limit the amount of information users can share about themselves. This lack of detail can make it difficult for users to get a sense of someone's personality and interests, leading to matches based on superficial criteria rather than shared values or compatibility.
The only way to describe yourself before a match is with a short description that no one reads. I assure you that 500 characters is not enough to convey how interesting you could be, depending only on your pictures to share this, and starting with the next point I want to discuss.
Superficiality
Tinder's swipe-based interface encourages users to make snap judgments based on a person's profile picture. This approach can encourage superficiality, as users focus primarily on physical appearance rather than getting to know someone on a deeper level. As a result, meaningful connections may be harder to come by, and users may miss out on potential matches because of this focus on appearance.
I'm not a chad, I didn't expect to become popular, but getting 200 likes in an entire year is sad, especially considering all of my life experiences and dreams that thousands of people have passed up for simple pictures of me.
Some of the girls just think they are cat's pajamas
After several matches, I discovered a hard truth. Most women have terrible egos. There were admirable people whose high standards I understood, but on the other side were girls with no desire or aspirations, no motivation or anything to work for, who treated me like garbage.
My hypothesis is that girls receive so much validation from men that it changes their mentality about themselves, empowering them and making them believe they are goddesses, a step above mortals.
Not all of my matches were like this, but the vast majority were.
Short-lived conversations
Once a match is made on Tinder, the clock starts ticking for users to start a conversation. However, many conversations on the platform fizzle out quickly or never get off the ground. This lack of meaningful communication is frustrating for me, who was looking to make real connections, and leaded to feelings of disappointment and dissatisfaction.
The nature of Tinder's swiping mechanism makes it easy for women to accumulate a large number of matches in a short amount of time. With so many options available, girls may be less inclined to invest time and effort in getting to know each match, leading to lower quality interactions or simply no interactions at all.
All roads lead to ghosting
One of the most frustrating aspects of using Tinder is the prevalence of ghosting. This phenomenon occurs when a match suddenly stops responding to messages or disappears altogether, leaving the other person confused and hurt.
I can understand that maybe we didn't go the way they wanted, but it's frustrating to have invested time and energy into getting to know someone only to have them suddenly disappear without explanation or closure.
It's Easier to Meet Girls in Person
If you're looking for meaningful connections and in-depth conversations, it's better to do it in person.
Interestingly enough, after I quit the app, I went on more dates with girls. Some I just knew for a long time, others I met at the gym or at events, and I can say that the connections I made with these people are pretty good.
My recommendation is to leave the app and get out there and meet people, do activities that you are passionate about, go to events that you are interested in, and if, like on Tinder, someone catches your eye, be brave and strike up a conversation.